Our conditions at home, work, and school and in our relationships with others are continuously in flux. Ideally, they are evolving from good to better, but, realistically, they can deteriorate into something far worse. Once the downward spiral begins, we instinctively try to reach out for viable ways to alter the negativity. And, yes, in most cases, it works. However, there may be a point when enough is enough, especially when your mental and physical health is being severely jeopardized.
How do you know when you have reached your breaking point? What happens when there is nothing more to do or say but remove yourself from a problematic situation or relationship?
Step One:
To determine when enough is enough, ask yourself the following questions.
(1) In what ways has the situation or relationship become intolerable?
(2) How is it affecting your mental and/or physical health?
(3) Is it temporary and likely to change for the better or permanent and getting worse?
(4) Why should you try to fix it?
(5) What can you change or fix about it?
(6) What is beyond your control to change or fix?
(7) What would happen if you let go of the situation/relationship?
(8) How would this change your life now and in the long-term?
Step Two:
Based on your answers, establish a list of pros and cons. Use this list to determine your best course of action.
Conclusion:
Everyone has a point when the tolerable becomes intolerable. It is up to each of us to identify our individual breaking points and to take the appropriate action. When you do, move forward with confidence, courage, and conviction. And, never look back.
