Even the most perfect families face problems, and it can be hard to determine exactly how to go about navigating these issues. In the most extreme cases, certain problems can even lead to alienation and mental health distress.
Children born in broken, complex, or abusive families have a deep impact on their mental health, their attachment styles, and how they form their future relationships.
“A broken family is one that includes unhealthy or severed relationships within the family unit,” explains Anderson. “They are often associated with divorce but certainly can occur in an intact family where various members are in conflict with or estranged from each other.” writes a trauma therapist, Frank Anderson.
Most of the brown families have conflicts over finances, different mindsets, cheating or abuse etc. Sometimes the conflicts in families are repairable however, it is important to take care of your mental well-being first. Before taking on the responsibility to mend the relationship it is important, to be honest with yourself about the nature of the relationship of the family members before things went sour.
Moreover, the impact of the household rift trickles down to affect your mental health. Here are a few things that can help you maintain your mental well-being in such circumstances.
• Develop a strong support system: Your support system consists of the people who may fill different roles in your life. Use your support system to talk about your feelings and help you.
• Conserve your energy for things you can control: Countless things happen over which we have no control. Instead of spending energy on what if scenarios, devote your energy to tasks and actions that you can complete to begin the process of restoration, healing or returning to normal.
• Get organized: So you can move forward and out of the system which drains your energy. Take time to sort through activities, job demands, a budget, available resources, friends who can provide support and backup, etc. This will help you to be more in control of your situation and to focus on what’s important.
• Get professional help: If you are feeling overwhelmed, seek assistance from an outside source such as your primary care provider or a mental health professional.
